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I’ve never met a parent of any kind of kid who felt that they knew all of the answers.
This isn’t a new issue.
In the 17th Century John Wilmot said, “Before I got married I had six theories about raising children; now, I have six children and no theories.”
When your child is different from what is typical, all the normal parental angst and confusion is intensified.
Not that raising typical kids is a cake walk. I’m definitely not saying that.
When I meet parents all over the world, I find that they all have similar worries about raising their gifted children.
Three Doubts Every Parent Has About Raising Gifted Kids
I’m not listing these doubts in any particular order, and I’m not in any way saying that every parent has all of them. I’m just saying that these are the ones I hear most commonly.
Doubt Number 1: Am I going to break them?
So many parents are worried that if they don’t do it just right, their children will break.
What do I mean by break?
Well, everyone worries about this in different ways, but it includes:
They won’t reach their potential.
They will hate me forever because I did it all wrong.
They will not be happy.
They will not be able to leverage their gifts.
They will not have any friends/marriages/relationships.
Take a deep breath.
You are not going to break your child.
Do some people break their children? Yes, but those people aren’t usually worried about it.
The fact that you’re worried about it makes it highly unlikely.
There are no guarantees in raising children. You can do everything exactly right and still have children who struggle – sometimes seriously. And some truly cruddy parents have kids who come out amazing. There is no one-to-one correspondence between good parenting and great outcomes.
There are no promises.